Twitter Blocking: "Sorry, you can’t follow the user (because they’re blocking you)"

Apr
03
2012

Twitter Blocking: "Sorry, you can’t follow the user (because they’re blocking you)"

Screen Shot 2012 04 02 at 9.59.22 PM 300x177 Twitter Blocking: Sorry, you cant follow the user (because theyre blocking you)

It’s a sad moment, when Twitter reports back, "Sorry, you can’t follow the user (because they’re blocking you) Learn more."

Okay Trent Reznor was a surprise. I’ve asked him several times, "Do you know me?" I’m kind of honored. I’m not sure how it happened, but when the "I’m gonna f you like an animal" dude is blocking you on Twitter, well, something big is happening.

The local blockers are more understandable. See, back in 09, I had a hissy fight with @omarg, a tech journalist with the Austin American Statesman. Seems Mr. Omar runs in similar circles and when I dissed him, his Twitterati began defending him, dissing me, and ultimately blocking me. There’s nothing much left on the interwebz of the encounter, but there are a few remnants, as there always are. http://topsy.com/twitter/omarg/site:uber.la But let’s not dwell on the past, or the TwitterSniper himself.

Let’s look at a few of my firm beliefs about social media and online interactions.

  1. Nobody forwards a boring email, or retweets a boring tweet.
  2. If you’re going to comment, do it where you can get a response.
  3. If you don’t allow comments on your blog, it’s not a blog and it’s not social media.
  4. Trolls must be tolerated, but eventually bullies should be caged and publicly exposed.
  5. If you make a claim, back it up with facts, posts, links, data.
  6. Reputation is earned not bragged about.
  7. If somebody isn’t blocking on you Twitter, you might be doing it wrong.
  8. Most people don’t really enjoy being mean; they do it because they can’t help it. (from Graham’s Hierarchy of Disagreement)

So I guess I did call Omar Gallaga a jerk. And I guess he’s going to block me forever on Twitter. (Ya know, I’ve tired of asking for a face-to-face / water-under-the-bridge makeup with him.) And perhaps his colleagues will also feel compelled to put me in their own personal Twitter purgatory. Oh well.

I’m doing okay. The wisdom of their Tweets is lost upon me now, but not for lack of desire, only lack of courage and open dialogue.

Here, the comments are always open.

@jmacofearth (also seen on Google+: jmacofearth)

permalink: http://uber.la/2012/04/twitter-sorry/

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Feb
12
2012

Crazy Little Thing Called Love: If You Can’t Say Something Nice… Well, Shout It

Screen shot 2010 01 16 at 4.49.52 AM Crazy Little Thing Called Love: If You Cant Say Something Nice... Well, Shout ItPeople call it going negative. Others understand that people don’t forward a boring email or promote a vanilla Pinterest PIN. Well, think about it, do you?

My motto has been, if you aren’t failing you aren’t learning. If you don’t lose followers on a regular basis, then they are not paying attention and you are not making yourself clear. I am not for everyone, call it an acquired taste; Like a David Letterman (the 80s – 90s version, before he got bitter and regretful) or the Onion, either you get me or you don’t. And if you don’t follow, that’s cool.

But… And here’s where the kid gloves come off: If you attack me (long form {comment} or short form {tweet}) be prepared to defend yourself. My weapons are facts, figures, references, documents, historical participation on social media sites like LINKEDIN, and mainly your own content. Like where you put your attention? What is it that you are constantly going on about?

I’ve done a bunch of posts on sentiment, or how negative am I really. And this past summer, I had a moment (five weeks) of silence where I contemplated exactly what I was going on about here. (and on facebook and twitter and google plus) And what I decided, and am aspiring to, is remaining exclusively on the positive side of the discussion. If I dish out criticism (Losing My Way on Dell.com) then I try also to offer the solution. (How To Fix Dell.com – And Dell’s Branding Crisis) That’s my plan.

In general I am an up and happy person who shows up on the sunny side of things. Until I’m down. Then I see dark clouds overhead, I rant a bit, and I go dark myself and don’t surface for days.

THE BIG A-HA: in social media it doesn’t really matter if your right. Nuance and subtle humor do not translate to 95% of the people. And most of those who think they are getting it, are probably taking it the wrong way. So… Stop the sarcasm, never use cynicism, and if you go negative then close with the solution.

Now I am not saying I’m right, or that my techniques and linguistic dexterity is always ON or appropriate. What I am saying, is that if you say something back it up with Passion AND Facts. If you attack, be prepared to meet the ninja in me.

Don’t take the easy road. If you’re going to criticize, do the extra work and offer a solution. Make it fiery. Nobody "promotes" or shares boring content. (Oh, if you can help it, don’t drop the f-bomb.)

@jmacofearth (also seen on Google+: jmacofearth)

permalink: http://uber.la/2010/01/shout-it/

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Jul
19
2009

When Have We Pushed To Far on Twitter? The Collapse of My Empire of Followers!

Category: social media,tech opinionjmacofearth @ 6:53 am

So, if you’ve followed the saga thus far you’ll know who I am referring to when I say "my Twitter Sniper ™" but you might be interested in the damage I have suffered, both physically and emotionally [Tongue firmly in cheek for this one.] as a result of my own irrational outburst. ;-{  

First the fallout.

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This local luminary, who will remain partially covered to protect the ignorant, was early to chime in on the TS’s behavior. In what appeared to be a like-minded DM this person also expressed frustration at the TS’s sniping.  BUT…

On Wednesday, this Wednesday, July 15, a mere 14 days later, everything changed.

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So I was curious and I tried to go to the newly unsupportive Tweeter. And golly by golly they had blocked me too. So an unfollow and a block seemingly unrelated to any direct activity connecting myself and this person to @omarg, but there it was. [see update at end of post for more info on this]

Okay, so now I’m really curious and I can’t DM this person now, cause they’ve nuked our connection. But let’s see over here… Facebook, yep there they are still a friend of Facebook. So I sent this person a direct message that simply asked, "You unfollowed and blocked me on Twitter today. Did something happen? Just curious." That’s it, the complete message. And I bet you already know the response.

Now this person has "unfriended me" on Facebook as well. OH SNAP, I wonder if they got LinkedIN too. Yep, seems like all ties have been severed between me and this social media leader in Austin. No longer curious now, I’m just disappointed in this person’s response to my question.

Nothing? So you’re going to ignore my question and take more actions, so perhaps I cannot find or message you in the future? Wow, that’s ODD. And a little childish. Who knows perhaps @omarg is on a campaign to destroy me. The @MoneyTweets unfollow I was grateful for. But if I start losing really high-value tweeps, I guess I’m heading in the wrong direction.

But it really is OKAY to unfollow me. I have no bones about you unsubscribing. In fact, here’s a tip, if you are UFM you might as well check all your networks to make sure you get all of our connections. DOH! Looks like I’m a day late on this post cause the TS has found our LinkedIN connection and removed it. Purty sure I saw it yesterday and I almost alerted him to the ISSUE myself, but perhaps the above "social media standout, real estate leader, and corporate social media trainer" hipped him to the problem. Shame on both of them.

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I guess our shared connects are going to go down as well. Gosh, I hope he doesn’t start messaging my LinkedIN networks calling for a jihad.

Well, I tell you what. I’m not leavin the Austin Top Guns group. Say/do what you like OmarG, this town is big enough for both of us. The social media global network can contain us both. I’m almost positive of it.

@jmacofearth

permalink: http://bit.ly/sniper-fallout

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Update: The TS might have some empire problems of his own to deal with.

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But I think the 3-month trending is more telling.

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Update 7-21-09: This morning Mr. Omar stops by for a snipe. [See Mr. Omar’s comment from 7-21-09.] But he’s gonna bring the attention back to the flap. Oh well…

So today after Mr. Omar’s drop by, I browsed his blog to learn that he wrote a nasty little post revealing his edited version of the Facebook dialogue between us without revealing the "rest of the story" as Paul Harvey would say. I’d like to quote the entire thing here, but I think I’ll let the curious-types visit Mr. Omar’s "Bloggystyle" page themselves and see what passes for the personal journalism of a professional journalist. I present to you Mr. Omar’s Terribly-Happy blog about Keyboard cat and creepy followers who keep telling him what they think. [Seems he’s got another “friend” who he can’t stand either. I kinda like what the guy says to him.]

I guess when Omar reported me to the Facebook authorities [which he reveals in on his blog] that’s when they shut down my ability to reply to what I thought was a fun and engaging wrestling match. The last word does seem to be quite important to Mr. Omar, so I guess he shut-er-down. But the entire post is still up on Facebook. I’d like to share it as well, in it’s entirety, but I won’t. In fact that’s the "threat" I made to Omar. "I’d rather publish this entire dialogue on the web, rather than continue to deal with your unsubstantiated rants."

And that’s what I did with my initial post regarding Omar’s sniping me. And when he continued to shoot out sparks on a daily basis, not really criticizing but merely poking his blunt wit at me, I took aim with revealing screenshots and what I consider to be my own biased opinion of the situation. So he became my DEAR TWITTER SNIPER poster child. And I guess that makes him furious.

Here’s the back story if you are interested:

The initial post where I tried to point out how Sniping on Twitter was a bad idea over a month ago on June 17. Mr. Omar Gallaga and JMacofearth Flap Their Tweets At Each Other – 6-17-09

The defining post now over two weeks old. Dear Twitter Sniper: Shooting Sparks, Blanks, Hollow Points, Warm Fuzzies, Nerf Darts

Update 7-23-09: So why after all his ranting, using dirty words to describe me, accusing me of online stalking and reporting me to the Facebook authorities does Mr. Omar Gallaga feel it is then worthwhile to continue sniping at me?

I’m like an extracted tooth or something. It’s painful for a while, but you can’t help but keep sticking your tongue in the place where the missing tooth was. So he has nothing better to do, no interesting pieces to write about Mommy Bloggers or the "Yo quiero Taco Bell" dog passing?

Perhaps if the effect is more like poking a fork in an electrical wall outlet he will shut-er-down for good. We’ll see I guess.

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Either this is his warped sense of humor or he’s still going for the last word? Whatever the motivation, I’m sure the Statesman editors would think it somewhat unprofessional behavior for a professional writer, well let’s say journalist. Maybe all of this is building towards a NPR All Tech Considered Showdown Show that he has in the works. Nah, probably not. Just warped.

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Jun
19
2009

Bungle in the Jungle or What’s In a Snipe: Graham’s Hierarchy of Disagreement

Bungle in the Jungle: I’m a tiger if you want love, I’m a snake if we disagree

I think this diagram and discussion by Paul Graham sums up why TWITTER SNIPING is bad form.

How to Disagree by Paul Graham. Here’s a taste:

But the greatest benefit of disagreeing well is not just that it will make conversations better, but that it will make the people who have them happier. If you study conversations, you find there is a lot more meanness down in DH1 than up in DH6. You don’t have to be mean when you have a real point to make. In fact, you don’t want to. If you have something real to say, being mean just gets in the way.

If moving up the disagreement hierarchy makes people less mean, that will make most of them happier. Most people don’t really enjoy being mean; they do it because they can’t help it.

Graham has even built a hierarchy of disagreement that is a good tool for understanding your own stance.

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I work to keep my discussions in the higher realms of the disagreement hierarchy.

My hat off to Paul Graham for building such a useful diagram and giving us a well-defined framework for arguing. We must disagree to move forward on things where we have misunderstandings. It is best if we can keep the discussion in the higher realms of the hierarchy.

@jmacofearth (also seen on Google+: jmacofearth)

permalink: http://uber.la/2009/06/disagreement/

A modern day Twitter Argument, where blocking may be dropping into the lower forms of disagreement:  Twitter Blocking: "Sorry, you can’t follow the user (because they’re blocking you)"

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